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In a world that often pressures us to blend in, embracing our uniqueness is a powerful act of self-love and confidence. We spend too much time worrying about what others think. Understanding that nobody else can live our lives helps to focus on our life and where we are at. This blog post focuses on the importance of standing out, and I will share a personal mantra that helped me through tough times: "One day at a time, you can't change the past and the future hasn't happened." This mantra became my lifeline and, even when it felt crazy, I chanted it like a mad woman in my kitchen—until I believed it. When you embrace your uniqueness, it’s inevitable that some will not understand or appreciate it. This criticism can be disheartening, but it’s essential to remember that it usually stems from their insecurities. Standing confidently in your own skin requires resilience against external opinions. Once you accept who you are and what you have done other people may let you down but they wont hurt you. A life living in shadows and secrets is hard work. Why would you do that to yourself? Acceptance Accepting your uniqueness is not a destination; it is a lifelong journey. It requires commitment and sometimes courage. There will be days when you feel strong, and days when insecurity sneaks in. During those challenging moments, reach for your mantra, and allow it to ground you. Remember, nobody can live your life like you can. Your experiences, thoughts, and feelings are unique to you. Stand tall and be proud of who you are. Embracing your uniqueness not only liberates you but also inspires others to do the same. As you navigate through life, keep chanting your mantra, no matter how crazy it sounds. Repeating, "One day at a time, you can't change the past and the future hasn't happened," will remind you to live in the moment and appreciate your journey. Let's step away from the noise and embrace our truth . Remember, confidence doesn’t come from conforming; it comes from being true to yourself. OWN YOUR TRUTH!!!!!

Do you ever feel like your brain is the world's noisiest library, with all shelves collapsing onto you all at once, burying you under a landslide of overdue emotions? Welcome to the club! Personal Story: The Adventures of an Overthinker Let me introduce you to my brain, which I'm almost certain has a population of its own. There's a council of anxious thoughts waving miniature flags, a parade of embarrassing memories dancing through every now and then, and a relentless choir of self-doubt singing in perfect disharmony. Oh, the joys of overthinking! It's like a sport I never signed up for but somehow became an expert in overnight. My brain could win gold in the Olympics of Worrying, with thoughts sprinting faster than Usain Bolt. That's when I stumbled upon the Worry Diary, the superhero cape for my turbulent mind. What a game-changer! It gave structure to the chaos. The Worry Diary is not just a journal; it's a companion, a confidant, and a wise old friend who listens without judgement and replies with a witty retort. It's where your anxieties go to retire, sipping martinis on a beach chair while you watch from afar. So, grab your favourite pen (or quill, if you're feeling extra fancy) and embark on an adventure with your brain. Schedule a regular date with your Worry Diary, a safe space where worries and anxieties get documented. Your brain will thank you and your heart will thank you. Embrace the chaos, dance with your fears, and laugh until your worries disappear. The Worry Diary is your backstage pass to the greatest show on Earth: the circus of your mind. So, are you ready to unleash your inner thoughts with a Worry Diary? Buckle up, it's going to be a rollercoaster ride of laughs, tears, and a whole lot of self-discovery. Let the show begin! Positive Thoughts Gift Boxes available in the shop section of my blog. Each Positive Thoughts Gift Box includes a Worry Diary, a Pen and other calming items you can mix and match. A great gift to help people get to grips with there emotions and a tool to help guide people to help themselves.

My Mantra "You Cant Change The Past, You Have No Idea What's Going To Happen, So Take One Day at A Time, One Problem At A Time!" Well I think I cracked it, all I have to do is say that to myself and everything will be alright. I don't think so.! When I get anxious and stressed I take a deep breathe say to myself hold on a minute and break that statement down. I really cant change what's happened, I really don't have a crystal ball. Live in the moment and deal with each issue as it arises. I have to keep saying this to myself until I believe it. Until logic takes over and I go right, what's the issue? I break it down one issue at a time and sort it out in my head. It has been my saving grace. I once heard an analogy "I want to take my brain out and wash it" Those words out of the mouth of a child. Wow that's exactly what anxiety feels like. Putting order to your thoughts, taking time to breathe and living in the moment is what makes me tick. The down side is time is flying.

I had no idea. Shame on me! My son asked me the question why are people not posting about the fact that it is men's mental health month and I was stumped. It is such an important topic as is all mental health issues but yet it is still kept behind closed doors as if it was something to be ashamed about. Shame on us as a society! Our schools need to wake up and talk to teenagers properly about what they are experiencing. Changes in hormones, life expectations, peer pressure, drug use, etc. Counselling should be part of the course in secondary schools. We need to see the world from their perspective and look at the pressures they are under. You can see the situation in school where topics are glossed over. The girls are giggling and the boys are being disruptive because emotions are scary things not to be discussed. The trouble is that the boy who is happy go lucky and gets on with everyone could well be the boy who cant sleep at night because he doesn't understand how he is feeling. We have come along way in the last ten years but mental health needs to be treated as you would a pain in your back or knee or wherever. Life is precious! It is very hard to see the good when there is a veil of darkness around you. Try be aware that there may be reasons for someone's ghosting, bad behaviour or attitude. A reminder that you are there to listen without judgement is the best present you could give someone. In this world of technology with everything programmed to go so fast we over look the simplest of things. Take a deep breath, exhale and talk.

I am determined I am going to change the narrative that is my mixed up, scrambled, menopausal brain. I have neurons firing in all directions but no voice to shout them out loud. ALRIGHTY is a code word my close friend and I use to describe how we were feeling without the rest of the world knowing. Guys you know that feeling when you plaster on a smile, get on with life and ignore the chaos that is really going on. That one word bonds us together in a shared understanding of each other. It allows us to scream from the rooftops and feel heard in that millisecond. There is a hug attached and a feeling of letting go. It validates how you are feeling and that you have a friendly ear. It stands for my life is upside down, I'm having a shit day, need to talk later. You know the cup of coffee is imminent and that you will get a chance to VENT without judgement before the knapsack on your back explodes. That one word tells the story that is hidden behind the smile and platitudes, and the bullshit we are all surrounded by. I hope everyone finds their alrighty friend and gets to spill the beans in one word!

Did you ever have that oh my god moment when you can hear what you sound like and can’t believe it’s you. I did and I laughed to the point where I wet myself. My youngest son was taking the mick out of me and asked me could he walk to the shops? He piped up with “let me guess, a 14-year-old boy drowned in the sea, the boy who got killed off the electric scooter, the boy who stepped out onto the road, fell, hit his head and died,” you get the gist. He only asked me can he walk to the shops! He is 15!!!!! In that nano second it takes him to ask I have already calculated all the disasters that could happen, every way in which he could possibly get hurt and don’t get me started on my older teen who is learning to drive. Mrs Bucket would be in the hap penny place! Hand firmly gripped on the Jesus handle I start “Mind the cow in the field over there, your too close to the car in front (what car?), mind the ditch, watch for people on the path in case they cross the road” all of this while driving out of our housing estate. I look at my kids and see disaster for some reason! Every night I checked on them while they were sleeping to see if they were still breathing, obviously that was when they were a lot younger (ah, maybe I still peek). When does the crazy stop? At what point do you close your eyes and say off you go? Social media has created a generation of parents that now know exactly what can happen as its happening. It begs the question was a little ignorance a blessing?

When you get to a certain age your brain gets frazzled. I like to think that’s because I know so much but really its hormones and a little bit of crazy mixed together. So, you decide that’s it I am going to get organized, I am going to be one of those people that seems like they’ve got their shit together. First things first. Make a list. To do this you need to find the perfect notepad not too big to carry and not too small to lose. First entry is the grocery shopping list, this is part of the I’m going to be smarter about what I buy, I’m going to save money and don’t forget be healthier. I go through the presses and decide what I need (This is great! Why did I not do this before). Job done and its off to the shop. You have got the trolley, sanitized it, bags on hook and ready to go. Oh, wait the list! Out comes the handbag and the search begins. Guess what the notebook is still on the kitchen table and now you are going around the store looking like a crazy person, talking to yourself, and writing in the air with your finger trying to remember what you wrote on your list. Lesson learnt don’t use a notebook. Ok then let’s try something different you now write a list and place it on the fridge door. You can ad to this list during the week, so this is really working for you. Job done and again its off to the shop but guess what the list is still on the fridge! So how do you remember to remember the list? I used to think this memory problem was synonymous with ladies of a certain age, but I have to say my husband has come up with his own ways of copping without ever suggesting there was a problem. Place work items on the ground at the front door so you can’t leave the house without falling over them. Text yourself reminders and don’t open text until the morning. Leave tablets beside kettle so when you get your coffee in the morning they are there. I have to say some of these ideas are genius! The difference between us, is I would fall over the items at the door, get distracted and run back to get something and completely forget about what was on the floor. I have driven to my sister in laws house with a birthday present for her, opened the boot to get the present and it dawned on me, I left it on the telephone stand. Solution- Surround yourself with people who know and understand the crazy, people who understand getting a response back on messenger is a miracle and people who know not to ask you to remember anything!

Why has it taken 49 years to be able to say WHAT THE HELL WAS THAT ALLL ABOUT? I have been a worrier my whole life. I have spent time over the years developing skills/hacks to deal with the after affects of worry as in heart racing, palpitations, hot flushes, not sleeping, etc. Life turns up all kinds of obstacles and I am sure everyone at some stage has suffered with this infliction but I am talking to those of you that have taken it to the next level . The 10 year old me worried in bed in case I forgot to worry about something! I am not saying I didn't have cause to worry. My parents were going through a separation and back then it was not the norm but my brain analysed every avenue of WHAT IF. I tried to make sense of my emotions, I came up with worst case scenarios and would play them out to see if I would survive the outcome (WHAT THE HELL). That trend has followed me my whole life, be strong, don't worry, deal with situations rationally, look at each possible outcome and box it off as sorted. The trend here is never letting myself go, never breaking down and just saying outload I need a shoulder to lean on. Everyone needs to scream outload and say IM NOT OK at times. A hug from a loved one, a feeling of being supported no matter what the outcome is a very powerful tool in the fight against the chaos that is going own internally. My daughter once broke down and asked me to "take out her brain and wash it". Unknow to her she had already understood that her brain was firing in all different directions, that she needed help to sort it out and that she needed to shout it out I'm not ok. I gave her a sheet of paper and a pen and told her to mind map. Put herself in the middle and draw lines coming out with headings such as school, friends, family, etc. Write the first thing that comes to mind without thinking about it. It revealed a lot. That statement I'm not ok is actually the first step in becoming ok. It is so important to let go and not feel I should be coping, I am being ridiculous, other people cope just fine (DO They). As children we learn to pick ourselves up after a fall and shrug it off, we learn to get on with things and not look back. Older generations make statements like "you will be alright before you are trice married!" Clearly unresolved issues come to the surface at some stage, they shape our characters and personalities. The most important gift a parent can give their child is an open ear and a set of tools to be able to cope with situations as their world starts to become smaller. Remember when you see someone worrying do not make a statement saying DON'T WORRY. Its quiet ridiculous when you think about it. If it was that easy to stop worrying people would not spend a life consumed by worry!

Welcome to My World I started a blog to see if I could as I am slightly OLDER than the current generation who live their lives on social media. I have conversation's with people all the time and almost always use the words ME TOO! So what does that mean? Does that mean we all encounter the same obstacles, joys, lows, brain fog, etc, etc. To help my brain out I decided to write down thoughts, experiences and mishaps as they pop into my mind. Maybe you might also be saying ME TOO! INSIGHT- Where the (alrightyvents) came from: I am determined I am going to change the narrative that is my mixed up, scrambled, menopausal brain. I have neurons firing in all directions but no voice to shout them out loud. ALRIGHTY is a code word my close friend and I use to describe how we were feeling without the rest of the world knowing. Guys you know that feeling when you plaster on a smile, get on with life and ignore the chaos that is really going on. That one word bonds us together in a shared understanding of each other. It allows us to scream from the rooftops and feel heard in that millisecond. There is a hug attached and a feeling of letting go. It validates how you are feeling and that you have a friendly ear. It stands for my life is upside down, I'm having a shit day, need to talk later. You know the cup of coffee is imminent and that you will get a chance to VENT without judgement before the knapsack on your back explodes. That one word tells the story that is hidden behind the smile and platitudes, and the bullshit we are all surrounded by. I hope everyone finds their alrighty friend and gets to spill the beans in one word! Ways to help with Anxiety It has taken me 50 years to figure out how to deal with anxiety. I have teenage kids that have so much going on. The stress on everyone in the current climate is ridiculous. I hope to help with some ideas I have used which have been helpful and hope to sell some products that might help young and old. We all travel the same road just have different destinations! Subscribe now and see if you are saying ME TOO!!. I hope to give you a giggle over a coffee, give a platform for serious topics and give you some comfort on a down day! .

The use of the word Fuck was always banned in my house when I was growing up. It was bad language, you had a foul mouth, you were not cultured, etc. I use it all the time! It expresses everything with one word. It can express joy FUCK Yeah, Disappointment FUCK That, annoyance FUCK OFF and just FUCK! I have two dogs and they can be mischievous to say the least. I can shout, I can repeat myself several times with a command to get down, etc but when I shout FUCK OFF I obviously express so much emotion with it that they stop what they are doing and walk away in disgust. Imagine I offend the dogs with my language. Who came up with the word FUCK and who said it was bad language? I even tell my teenagers to stop using the word as it pours out of me but when they are eighteen its alright? What? So when your 17 you could be a part of Mensa and when you turn 18 and use the word FUCK you somehow diminish your vocab and become a dunce. Sometimes I do feel guilty and say to myself I have to stop cursing but I'm like a rebellious child and its a naughty word. The time for washing my mouth out with soapy water (an old expression for you young folk) is well gone!

We live we die and there is a whole lot of stress in between. What's the point I ask myself? Sometimes when you let your mind wonder and question the universe and your part in it, it sends shivers down my spine, panic sets in and the overwhelming fight or flight feeling kicks in. Best advice I have for anyone feeling that way is live in the moment where possible. We spend our lives planning for the future we may not have and looking back on trauma that we bring with us. But guess what we cant change the past! We can learn from it but we need to park it. Future plans are great and necessary as long as we don't live for them. Living in the present has helped me deal with a lot over the years and brought me joy in the small things. The car breaks down- LET IT GO My boss is as ass- LET IT GO My kids are driving me mad- LET IT GO Take a breath and look around at what you have and more importantly who you have in your life. That is what makes you whole. There will be bumps in the road but the road continues. Love, laughter, honesty and companionship is fundamental to a happy and complete human being. One day at a time centres you and allows you to breath. Be happy in the moment!

On greeting someone we say Hi, How Are You? and the typical response is not a bother or can’t complain or AH getting there! All of which suggest a sense of BLA, a feeling of just about coping, a mutual understanding that we are all just muddling along. The response is so universal that you are still walking and, in many cases, have passed by before the answer is given. An acknowledgement that we are all in the same pressure cooker simmering away. I was walking into work last week and greeted a young man with Hi, How Are You and kept walking. My head so wrapped up in what was ahead of me I didn't wait to hear a response. The young lad answered with FANTASTIC! Hold on a minute my brain just woke up. What did he just say! Did he just say FANTASTIC? talking about a double take. Fantastic what an attitude. It stopped me in my tracks and instantly put a smile on my face. Why shouldn't he be fantastic? Why shouldn't we all be fantastic? That one response not only woke me up, it lifted my spirits and changed my outlook on the day ahead. The power of a positive mind set is contagious. So, the next time someone greets you with Hi How Are You try answering with FANTASTIC and feel the vibe change and the atmosphere lift.